In the dance between a man and a woman, the average guy is unaware of the sequence of things to enable courtship. He will blindly stumble along, not spending enough time in one area, and therefore, could appear desperate, or he could spend too much time in another area, for example, just acting friendly, hanging out and buying dinners.

The Alpha Male instinctively knows the order of behaviors that must be, in order to achieve his goal, which is to be in her arms. Therefore, when the moment arises, and guys, never forget this, there is ALWAYS a moment between a man and a woman were the guy can make the girl know subconsciously, “Ride or die, but now you know if you stick around here much longer, we are going to be sleeping together.”

If the relationship does not morph into ecstasy, then the Alpha Male will bail out and look for another conquest, with no apologies. He simply is not there to be her life long friend, her tissue paper.

The average guy, unaware of the dynamics that are in play, will NOT bail, but hope that his patience and suffering will be rewarded. And it might. But if so, it will set a dangerous precedent that says it is up to her to decide when he will be rewarded. Sadly, far too many relationships exist of this sort.

So what is the solution? If you have any ‘friends’ that you have always wanted, but haven’t made a move, be willing to make her the Sacrificial Lamb, to walk the plank. By this I mean that you MUST be willing to lose her friendship, in order to make it a new relationship, and most importantly, to take your psyche to a higher level.

Don’t think that just telling her how you feel will cause her to respond, because it won’t. No, what you should do is create a situation in which physical contact or closeness occurs. In the moment that it happens, you can let it linger, and then just kiss her! It’s that simple! Be playful about it though, no time to get all serious. If she says no, fine, I mean what’s the big deal, it’s just sex.

At least now you walk away with your manhood, knowing nothing ventured, nothing gained. And something funny happens. They usually call, but now you have a new relationship, one in which she knows that you are a man.

Eleazar Heracleopolis is the Author of the best selling online dating book 'Alpha Male Online Dating' http://www.alphamaledating.com that provides Alpha Male step-by-step instruction to skyrocket your love life with online dating.