Picture yourself at a bar, looking over at an attractive women. You are dying to go talk to her but fear stops you dead in your tracks. You'd love to say something to her but you're afraid of rejection and scared to look stupid. A great way to make sure you don't chicken out is to vividly imagine yourself at home, lonely later that evening regretting the fact that you didn't go talk to her.

See yourself sitting there lonely and feel the hurt in your heart. The hurt that sits there, bothering you, reminding you that you were such a coward. Really feel the pain that you will feel knowing that you were too scared to do something as simple as saying hi to another human being who breathes the same air as you. Make this feeling so real that you know you have no choice but to go talk to her.

Now I want to share you my secret weapon for getting over the fear of the approach. It's called the "Death Bed Technique". I want you to envision yourself on your laying on your death bed thinking back on your life. I want you to picture all the regrets you had while looking at your life. Did you live every minute to the fullest? Did you go for it when you had the chance? Looking at life from this perspective helps you realize that there's no time to be afraid. You can't let life pass you by! We only go around once - we cannot let fear stand in our way.

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